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Do you agree, love changes everything, but loving people isn’t easy?  

And just how do you love someone who is hard to love?  

Hey, does it make a difference which generation you’re talking about?  Does culture really change that much?  

Well this could be TMI or TMQ  (too much info or too many questions) at this point.

So let’s investigate….

First Train of Thought:  

Everyone has come across =

  • less than truthful,

  • the money hungry,

  • the back stabbers or

  • vow-breakers.

  • Either, we meet them casually;

  • develop a friendship;

  • see them at work;

  • or marry them.

These type people seem to cross our life-path sooner or later.  Or is it we who are crossing their life-path?  Either way we cross and they bring good or sometimes bad to us.

Below Mr. Fulghum, a prominent writer who wrote, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten (1988), which stayed on the New York Times bestseller lists for nearly two years. Throughout the collection, subtitled “Uncommon Thoughts on Common Things”, Fulghum expounds his down-home philosophy of seeing the world through the eyes of a child said it all.  

But Mr. Fulghum used deductive strategy while comparing a boat-load of previous, knowing life experiences to come up with this statement: 

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge.  That myth is more potent than history.  That dreams are more powerful than facts.  That hope always triumphs over experience.  That laughter is the only cure for grief.  And I believe that love is stronger than death.”  – Robert Fulghum

Do you agree with Mr. Fulghum?  

Well, let’s keep investigating …..

Second Train of Thought = Think of your family

Other people believe that love changes everything, but loving people isn’t easy ; especially and including people who are in their family.  

What about your family?  One definition of family is:


Some part of that definition also says, that people who make up your family are living, loving and laughing their way through the trials and griefs from this world.

The last thing to remember when you’re trying to know how to love the “ones in your family” who are hard to love:


Third Train of Thought: Where does the loving start? It starts with you.

What you are thinking , what you are feeling and what you are speaking will prove your love for yourself and your love for others.” – Patricia (me)

 It doesn’t matter who are the other people.  It should be so ingrained within your heart “to love your neighbor” religiously, or morally,  politically or otherwise.   

There are many different people, but your love should always be the same, if not growing stronger.  

 Let’s further investigate using this video by Brian Tracey.

[Brian Tracy is one of America’s leading authorities on the development of human potential and personal effectiveness.]

 Even if others who are crossing your life-path are:

  • looked up to, or looked down on

  • church leader, or a street walker

  • hosting the party or crashing it

  • the lender or the borrower

  • and so forth and so on.. for as many titles, categories, levels or areas you can think .

Like I said above, your love should always be unconditionally the same, if not growing even stronger.  


P.S.  If you have any comments, I would appreciate your writing them here for the reader’s  edification from your experiences, trials and tribulations.


Are you a grandparent experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon? Remember the 2006 film starring Denzel Washington.  This might have been your first introduction to deja vu, but not your last.


Judith Orloff, M.D. wrote an article, The Meaning Of Deja Vu.  She stated that,  “Deja Vu is a common intuitive experience that has happened to many of us. The expression is derived from the French, meaning “already seen.” When it occurs, it seems to spark our memory of a place we have already been, a person we have already seen, or an act we have already done.”

Now are you ready to hear what this blog is really all about?  You as a parent all over again for your grandchildren.  This is sometimes necessary because of compelling reasons which we won’t began to discuss here.

……but, “In 2010, the Pew Research Center found that one in 10 children  in the United States were living with a grandparent, and that the number of U.S. households composed of multiple generations was higher than it had been in half a century.  Click here for more details on this article.

Most of us  enjoy visiting, on occasion helping out with finances and in particular circumstances taking full or partial custody of our grandchildren.

A fact:  grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon can be so fulfilling  as seen in the video below.

4.9 million children (7%), under age 18, live in grandparent-headed households.  That’s up from 4.5 million living in grandparent-headed households 10 years ago.  I suspect this increase has to do with challenges in our economy over the past five years, including the housing and foreclosure crisis, the loss of jobs and general economic woes.  Clearly, grandparents are increasingly providing the stability and security of home for their families.  Source: AARP.org View report

A fact:  grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenonencounter foiled retirement plans while facing financial, housing and other challenges as seen in the video below.

Video: Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: The facts


51 percent of grandparents who have grandkids living with them are white (up from 46 percent in 2000); 24 percent are Black/African American (down from 28 percent in 2000); and 19 percent are Hispanic/Latino (down slightly from 20 percent in 2000). Source: AARP.org  Check Out Details


Nevertheless, we as grandparents are the generation who were taught to do what you’ve got to do to get things done.   And so it is here we are grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon…. but with a different twist as we’re fitting the new and different ways of parenting  today.