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LOVE CHANGES EVERYTHING BUT LOVING PEOPLE ISN’T EASY

Do you agree, love changes everything, but loving people isn’t easy?  

And just how do you love someone who is hard to love?  

Hey, does it make a difference which generation you’re talking about?  Does culture really change that much?  

Well this could be TMI or TMQ  (too much info or too many questions) at this point.

So let’s investigate….

First Train of Thought:  

Everyone has come across =

  • less than truthful,

  • the money hungry,

  • the back stabbers or

  • vow-breakers.

  • Either, we meet them casually;

  • develop a friendship;

  • see them at work;

  • or marry them.

These type people seem to cross our life-path sooner or later.  Or is it we who are crossing their life-path?  Either way we cross and they bring good or sometimes bad to us.

Below Mr. Fulghum, a prominent writer who wrote, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten (1988), which stayed on the New York Times bestseller lists for nearly two years. Throughout the collection, subtitled “Uncommon Thoughts on Common Things”, Fulghum expounds his down-home philosophy of seeing the world through the eyes of a child said it all.  

But Mr. Fulghum used deductive strategy while comparing a boat-load of previous, knowing life experiences to come up with this statement: 

“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge.  That myth is more potent than history.  That dreams are more powerful than facts.  That hope always triumphs over experience.  That laughter is the only cure for grief.  And I believe that love is stronger than death.”  – Robert Fulghum

Do you agree with Mr. Fulghum?  

Well, let’s keep investigating …..

Second Train of Thought = Think of your family

Other people believe that love changes everything, but loving people isn’t easy ; especially and including people who are in their family.  

What about your family?  One definition of family is:

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Some part of that definition also says, that people who make up your family are living, loving and laughing their way through the trials and griefs from this world.

The last thing to remember when you’re trying to know how to love the “ones in your family” who are hard to love:

LOVE CHANGES EVERYTHING BUT LOVING PEOPLE ISN’T EASY

Third Train of Thought: Where does the loving start? It starts with you.

What you are thinking , what you are feeling and what you are speaking will prove your love for yourself and your love for others.” – Patricia (me)

 It doesn’t matter who are the other people.  It should be so ingrained within your heart “to love your neighbor” religiously, or morally,  politically or otherwise.   

There are many different people, but your love should always be the same, if not growing stronger.  

 Let’s further investigate using this video by Brian Tracey.

[Brian Tracy is one of America’s leading authorities on the development of human potential and personal effectiveness.]

 Even if others who are crossing your life-path are:

  • looked up to, or looked down on

  • church leader, or a street walker

  • hosting the party or crashing it

  • the lender or the borrower

  • and so forth and so on.. for as many titles, categories, levels or areas you can think .

Like I said above, your love should always be unconditionally the same, if not growing even stronger.  

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P.S.  If you have any comments, I would appreciate your writing them here for the reader’s  edification from your experiences, trials and tribulations.

People know how unconscious thoughts affect their personal beliefs, don’t they?

This keeps happening to me… I know why but I’m not sure how to change it. 

Do you sometimes have outcomes that are exactly the opposite of what you said you wanted?

Let me testify to being out-of-this-type of control.  You see, Popeye’s has a daily special every day of the week.  On today, Tuesday, they have two pieces, an order of french fries and a biscuit.  It is a habit for me to enjoy eating the Tuesday special every week. I justified eating all the calories, by eating salads the next day.  I didn’t think to hard about it, fooling myself into thinking it is okay to only eat fast foods once a week.   At least that was my habit until I started on my cleansing diet.  I’ve lost some weight and feel overall healthier.  I’ve been steadily going to the gym to workout with a personal trainer.  It’s been a few weeks and things are going fine.

But….today I find myself…here in the drive through of Popeye’s Chicken getting my Tuesday’s special.

I ask myself, “What is going on?”  Is it possible to change old habits?  How do you do it?

It is a known fact that unsuccessful, as well as, successful people often carry around unconscious beliefs that limit their abilities and influence their beliefs.   Dr. Judith Rich , a pioneering teacher in the field of transformation and consciousness, identify the unconscious belief to be as a ‘managers’ that determines and influences the choices one makes today.
The most profound take away from her article is that; if your unconscious beliefs are in conflict or twisted differently that your conscious beliefs, then the unconscious beliefs will delete your responses and steer you away from your conscious beliefs.

People know how unconscious thoughts affect their personal beliefs.

So…

What is the solution?  How do you change your beliefs? 

Here is a process I gleaned from some of my business training:
  1. First find out what your positive intentions are behind your behavior?  What do you want or don’t want.
  2. Figure out what forms of dis-beliefs that can be redefined to mean something else.
  3. Check out the consequences of either continuing to believe your current beliefs.  Or list the positive consequences of changing them.
  4. Create a metaphorical story that means something to you that demonstrates what would happen when you apply the belief to you. (feel it, have it, do it, be it)
A metaphor is a figure of speech that identifies something as being the same as some unrelated thing for rhetorical effect, thus highlighting the similarities between the two.  [Wikipedia]

For example:

All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances … – William Shakespeare, As You Like It
‘This quotation expresses a metaphor because the world is not literally a stage.  By figuratively asserting that the world is a state, Shakespeare uses the points of comparison between the world and a state to convey an understanding about the mechanics of the world and the behavior of the people within it.’
  1. Model how this new belief looks – how you really see things versus what actually is there after applying this new belief to yourself.  Finally, re-assess what is real.  Change again if necessary.

Furthermore,

I do realize some of you need a chart or some type of visual to understand and learn from a written process. So, here is a visual of the process above:

People know how unconscious thoughts affect their personal beliefs.

What kind of metaphorical story would you write using the above information?

Here are some conscious beliefs successful people believe:
  1. Compete with your goal, don’t compete with other people.  Crush the goal!
  2. Access to your market is nearly unlimited with the use of social media.
  3. Do one thing every day.
  4. Success isn’t built on strategy.  Success is built through execution.
  5. Work comes first, payoff comes later.
  6. They believe you need real connections with people you can help, trust; and with people who care.

People know how unconscious thoughts affect their personal beliefs.

Now you have just-a-little notion of what your unconscious beliefs can do to you or for you.
Leave a comment below on how you can apply this information in your life.
Talk to you soon,

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5 Top Beliefs/Values You Possess That Would Make Your Mama Proud

“What have you done for me lately?”  I think this is the title of a song.  But more importantly, what have you done to make your mama proud? OR- exactly what are the 5 top beliefs/values you possess that would make your Mama proud?
Some of you might say, “I have to many values and beliefs to count.”  Then there are others of you who don’t know any of your values or beliefs.  But, you might know what I call the ‘symptoms of your belief.’
A symptom of belief out of our conscious minds might be stated as:  “I don’t like talking in front of a group of people.”
The Real Belief from our unconscious minds might be stated as:   “I’m afraid they might not accept me because I’m not worthy.”
Some people might never know their real unconscious beliefs and how they are ruling their conscious mind.  In order to change their beliefs or values they must first be identified.
Right here… I would like to give you “for instances” or examples, so continue reading below:
You turn on the TV and it’s news time.  Then your conscious and unconscious minds receiving a barrage of negativity.  Yes, negative stories raise TV ratings.   Plus, negative thinking is so widespread in our society that negative thinking leaches into your set of values and beliefs. 
(You think?)
Lately we have been tuned in or turned off by the negative images on many subjects, such as: theoretically speaking undeserving people who are on welfare; or chatter about the social security bankroll running out; or Billions of dollars given to other countries even though our country is Billions in debt; or the degrading images of policemen which seems to be getting worse lately; or continued racial hatred festering in our country; and the list goes on …..to so much more.
Just how are your values / beliefs today compared to what they were several years ago? 
Can you see from the example above how repetitive information given to you (your conscious and unconscious mind) could have an effect on your values/beliefs?
Take note: …Are you still trusting, honest, tenacious, hardworking, and lovers of mankind? 
Can you visualize yourself being in a more prosperous lifestyle in the future?

What is your purpose? 

Here is a list of actions you will need to complete in order to meet your goal towards living a prosperous life.
  • Set a completion date to reach your goal
  • Set the earned $$$ amount
  • State what you your are willing to do (your service and your time)
  • State your belief to be successful  (visualize it using all of your 5 senses)
  • Do what your coach tells you – don’t reinvent the wheel
  • Set your self confidence by:
  1. knowing your abilities
  2. repeating your intentions at least twice a day
  3. believe in yourself and help others
  4. have a positive attitude
  5. Become self reliant and successful
It is still up to you to identify the 5 Top Beliefs That Would Make Your Mama Proud.   I have included a video that touches on the meaning of some  values/beliefs.
 Video: What are your values? Learn how to identify valu…

The video-take-away tells how to identify values/beliefs.  It address five values/beliefs:  Honesty, Openness, Success, Creativity, and Self-Reliance.  There are 100’s of values/ beliefs to choose from as you prioritize your 5 top beliefs that would make your mama proud.
I sincerely hope this post has been helpful to you.  Leave a comment below to give me your 5 top beliefs.

Value your day – no pun intended   :))

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GRANDPARENTS EXPERIENCING A DÉJÀ VU PARENTING PHENOMENON

Are you a grandparent experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon? Remember the 2006 film starring Denzel Washington.  This might have been your first introduction to deja vu, but not your last.

GRANDPARENTS EXPERIENCING A DÉJÀ VU PARENTING PHENOMENON

Judith Orloff, M.D. wrote an article, The Meaning Of Deja Vu.  She stated that,  “Deja Vu is a common intuitive experience that has happened to many of us. The expression is derived from the French, meaning “already seen.” When it occurs, it seems to spark our memory of a place we have already been, a person we have already seen, or an act we have already done.”

Now are you ready to hear what this blog is really all about?  You as a parent all over again for your grandchildren.  This is sometimes necessary because of compelling reasons which we won’t began to discuss here.

……but, “In 2010, the Pew Research Center found that one in 10 children  in the United States were living with a grandparent, and that the number of U.S. households composed of multiple generations was higher than it had been in half a century.  Click here for more details on this article.

Most of us  enjoy visiting, on occasion helping out with finances and in particular circumstances taking full or partial custody of our grandchildren.

A fact:  grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon can be so fulfilling  as seen in the video below.

4.9 million children (7%), under age 18, live in grandparent-headed households.  That’s up from 4.5 million living in grandparent-headed households 10 years ago.  I suspect this increase has to do with challenges in our economy over the past five years, including the housing and foreclosure crisis, the loss of jobs and general economic woes.  Clearly, grandparents are increasingly providing the stability and security of home for their families.  Source: AARP.org View report

A fact:  grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenonencounter foiled retirement plans while facing financial, housing and other challenges as seen in the video below.

Video: Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: The facts

 

51 percent of grandparents who have grandkids living with them are white (up from 46 percent in 2000); 24 percent are Black/African American (down from 28 percent in 2000); and 19 percent are Hispanic/Latino (down slightly from 20 percent in 2000). Source: AARP.org  Check Out Details

GRANDPARENTS EXPERIENCING A DÉJÀ VU PARENTING PHENOMENON

Nevertheless, we as grandparents are the generation who were taught to do what you’ve got to do to get things done.   And so it is here we are grandparents experiencing a deja vu parenting phenomenon…. but with a different twist as we’re fitting the new and different ways of parenting  today.

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Begin A New Chapter (Read daily to assess your visual learning system.)

Your ability to reach your goals is dependent on who you are on the inside. The reality is that if you want to reach a goal that’s bigger than where you are now, you need to become bigger on the inside.  You need to grow bigger to be able to reach that goal! You’ve got to focus on growing you in order to grow into your goals. (David Woods, Owner of Empower Network.)

Some of us are avid readers of many different kinds of books. Others of us would rather someone else read and summarize the books for us.

But, did you know that reading one hour a day could change your life? I first heard this fact from an old professor of mine when I was in business school. I wasn’t sure if I believed him or not then. He said that reading one hour a day could potentially change my life. Since then, I have found that most great men and women agree with him.

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We don’t have to look far to realize that reading is important and not just in our business lives. To get a perspective of what I mean, take a look at you past reading experiences from the simplest to the most complex.

We’ve had to read, read, read and read from elementary school throughout college. All the while, we’ve had to read all types of materials such as: reading to do research, reading any instructions for put- together- projects, reading the fun fantasy books, self-help book, as well as, sports and health magazines, reading the technical details before using newly purchased products, reading our personal documents such as rental agreements, etc., and many types of personal business documents. We even read the backs of our prescriptions, the backs of foods we’ve purchased, TV commercials and TV guides and movie reviews. And more, the list goes on!

I could go on and on, listings many more instances in which we’ve had to read, but now I want you to think about the reasons for all that reading. We read specifically to…

GAIN ACKNOWLEDGE, OR INFORMATION, OR NO- HOW AND EVEN FOR OUR PERSONAL GROWTH AND ENJOYMENT…..

WHICH WE DIDN’T HAVE BEFORE WE READ.

WE READ TO MAKE OUR LIVES BETTER IN SOME BIG OR LITTLE WAY. WE READ TO HAVE A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF WHO WE ARE INSIDE….

WE FOUND OUT THAT…

YOU CAN’T START THE NEXT CHAPTER OF YOUR LIFE IF YOU KEEP  RE-READING THE LAST ONE!

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Thus, I’m challenging you to “START A THE NEXT CHAPTER,” get a book in you hands and read it. If you apply this life long advice for reading one hour a day, then great things and feelings could come into your life.

Also, all that personal development will start to open up your mind.  You will be able to see more possibilities in your personal life AND in your business life. You will be able to realize your goals in your internet marketing business or any business because the power of the mind is an incredible tool to use.

READ TODAY!

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7 Habits for a more successful business blog

Your reason for blogging is to become successful in your business. Your success realized is defined……. when you’ve reached a critical mass of traffic coming to your blog and your business begins to explode!

Everything is working for you; you’re blogging , right? … and winning? You’re learning from the Wealthy Affiliate training courses and you get help from the WA community, right?

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Your success story goes like this: Traffic coming to your blog leads to: new subscribers; then those subscribers tell their friends, relatives, and business associates who visits your blog and subscribes to your blog. This happens over and over,….. until you reach critical mass of traffic.

I can’t put a number on that critical mass of traffic……. Maybe it’s 500 subscriber or 1000 subscribers;….. you’ll know when you’ve reached it because your business explodes!
Then, with every subscriber your goal is to gain their trust, develop a relationship and convert them to prospects with an offer of your products or services.

7 Habits for a more successful business blog

Finally, here are 7 habits which will make you have a more successful business blog if they’re practiced consistently.  Remember practice makes perfect!

1. Audience. You should know who you want to come to your blog: Are they male or female; young or old? Where do they live? How much money do they make? What keeps them up at night? What are their concerns and problems?

2. Design. Remember first impression is all. When they come to your blog what do they see? What they see will tell them about your personality, your professionalism and your offerings.

3. Credibility. Your credibility is Key. Introduce yourself through an about page (your story). Tell them what you do to help readers and how you’re qualified.

4. Opt-in incentive. Create an irresistible opt-in incentive. Be clear and specific to attract the right person on your list. You could simply solve a problem with an offer, such as a downloadable eBook, video tutorial/how to, printable checklist or worksheet, reports or a case study or an e-course.

5. Content. From the crafty enticing headlines to your strong calls to action make your content easy to read, and concisely written. Remember the 80-20 rule. Spend 20% of your time creating content and 80% promoting it. But the longer post is seen as more valuable than shorter ones.

6. Promote your content. Remember to rely on these methods of promotion: guest blogging, social medial promotion and perhaps some advertising. Get to know people in your niche who have already made it and get their support. Leave comments on their blog or interview them. After you have built a relationship with them you can count on them to help you get more traffic.

7. Social media. The choices are endless: Facebook, Twitter, Google+, LinkedIn, Pinterest and more. Master one and then move on to another only after you have established a presence. Develop one, do it well, then move on.

To sum it up,….. this quote comes to mind;   

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” – by Vince Lombardi

See you at the top,

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Can You Really Succeed With Living The Dream…Now?

Is there a dream that you’ve had since you were a child   Did you want to be a nurse, a doctor, a lawyer, or maybe a teacher, or possibly a race car driver.

Perhaps you wanted to be a fireman.  You  talked about it to all your friends … or to anyone who would listen for-that-matter. You dressed up in your fireman’s costume, then ran around the house and out into the backyard putting out imaginary fires.  You would even saved your friends in an imaginary rescue.

Can You Really Succeed With Living The Dream...Now?

Maybe….. you even tried to get your parent to buy you a Dalmatian dog because that’s the kind of dog you’d seen standing strong on a speeding red fire truck next to your hero… the fireman.  You read books and viewed any other materials depicting the life of a fireman.    But, the most solidifying and defining experiences for you were your visits to the neighborhood fire station a few blocks from your house.

That dream… was very real to you.  You knew what you wanted to be when you grew up, a fireman,  and that-was-that!  But life happens!  And time has a way of changing ideas and dreams.  Needless to say, perhaps you never got to be a fireman.

I guess you’re wondering why I’m asking about dreams.  You see, I once had a dream to be an advertising copy writer or to be a merchandiser who’d  buy for large clothing retailers.  I wasn’t sure which one of the two careers I wanted, but I knew I wanted it to be one or the other.  I dreamed of writing popular and witty ads or commercials.  I dreamed of traveling  to London, Paris, France and Italy to purchase the new latest fashions for some lucky merchandiser back home.  I would critique every ad, and visit our downtown to scrutinize each store window showcase.    I’d write my own commercials and ads with illustrations. (I still do this.)  I’d draw fashions, creating new designs and different ways to display them.

But…… by the time I was ready to declare my major for college.   I was told by my high school counselor that I didn’t have a chance of getting into either industry.  That it was reserved for men, not women and especially not women of color.  So I went away to college, but never again pursued my dreams.  Like I said before life happens.   Then I lived outside of my dreams,  maybe not in this order but,  I finished college, I got married, I had a daughter, I got divorced, I worked for someone else and finally retired.

I know that deep down in side I still  wanted my dreams!  And if I couldn’t get them then, what’s wrong with me getting them  now?

I want the fun, the travel, the sense of gratification, the freedom, the sense of accomplishment, and a pride gotten from my own brand of contributing to all mankind.  I guess you say, “She don’t want much!”

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What are your dreams?  How can you make them a reality?  You might not be able to go back and have the same type of career that you’ve initially dreamed.  BUT, you can utilize your gifts, talents, and desires to get your dreams now.  I’m on a journey….. towards getting my dreams using creating websites.

I invited you to search yourselves.  Get off the couch, out of the dead beat job, away from meaningless excuses and make it happen    — get your dreams and all that comes with them today!  Join me!

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How Owning My Identity! Has Changed My Life

Are you wondering how owning my identity changed my life?  Do you own your identity, that is to say do you have control of your life or does circumstances have control of your life? 

“Self-identity is inextricably bound up with the identity of the surroundings.” Lars Fr. H. Svendsen, a philosopher.

How Owning My Identity! Has Changed My Life

My life wasn’t my own. My identity wasn’t my own. I had so many irons in the fire. There were so many people to please. There were so many agendas created by other people in my life which I had no control over, and no power to change.

I found that I wasn’t taking any for myself. This left me with absolutely no time to dream. II could forget about having a ‘significant other’; I had no time for that special someone. Yes, I continued to grow.  I continued to live and learn.  But I had no outlet for the fruits reaped from my growth, there was no way to share what I had learned.  I couldn’t see the end of my story. 

How Owning My Identity! Has Changed My Life

“It is always important to know when something has reached its end.  Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.”  Paulo Coelho, The Zahir

My identity wasn’t my own. All of these things contributed to my overall identity: my occupation(s), my social relationships, my family relationships, my abilities, my moral beliefs, and my spirituality.

 THROUGH IT ALL…..

THIS IS WHAT I LEARNED….

“You aren’t your looks, or your gender, or your weight. you’re not where you were born, or who your parents are. You aren’t always, what you want to be.

You are what you do in your life, and who you help. You’re the legacy you are making to leave behind one day. You are what you do in this life you were given.  Don’t let people judge you on the things you aren’t, let them see who you are.” – J.G.

I learned to own my identity, which is who I am and…  WHO I was all the time. I just have to be my self no matter who is or isn’t pleased about it.

How Owning My Identity! Has Changed My Life

Now that I own my identity life has changed. I feel someone is smiling down on me and situations are coming up roses.  I agree with this quote  by Maya Angelou. (She is one of my favorite people.)

My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” 

I have become a different person. And, I will be able to personally accomplish many dreams.  I feel accepted by many people I know. But, my intuition tells me that there are a large number of people waiting to accept me as I continue to own my identity.

I have always wanted to write books, or articles. That is why I love Wealthy Affiliates where I can establish as many websites and blogs as my identity requires.  Why don’t you join me?

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