This keeps happening to me… I know why but I’m not sure how to change it.
Do you sometimes have outcomes that are exactly the opposite of what you said you wanted?
Let me testify to being out-of-this-type of control. You see, Popeye’s has a daily special every day of the week. On today, Tuesday, they have two pieces, an order of french fries and a biscuit. It is a habit for me to enjoy eating the Tuesday special every week. I justified eating all the calories, by eating salads the next day. I didn’t think to hard about it, fooling myself into thinking it is okay to only eat fast foods once a week. At least that was my habit until I started on my cleansing diet. I’ve lost some weight and feel overall healthier. I’ve been steadily going to the gym to workout with a personal trainer. It’s been a few weeks and things are going fine.
But….today I find myself…here in the drive through of Popeye’s Chicken getting my Tuesday’s special.
I ask myself, “What is going on?” Is it possible to change old habits? How do you do it?
It is a known fact that unsuccessful, as well as, successful people often carry around unconscious beliefs that limit their abilities and influence their beliefs. Dr. Judith Rich , a pioneering teacher in the field of transformation and consciousness, identify the unconscious belief to be as a ‘managers’ that determines and influences the choices one makes today.
The most profound take away from her article is that; if your unconscious beliefs are in conflict or twisted differently that your conscious beliefs, then the unconscious beliefs will delete your responses and steer you away from your conscious beliefs.
What is the solution? How do you change your beliefs?
Here is a process I gleaned from some of my business training:
First find out what your positive intentions are behind your behavior? What do you want or don’t want.
Figure out what forms of dis-beliefs that can be redefined to mean something else.
Check out the consequences of either continuing to believe your current beliefs. Or list the positive consequences of changing them.
Create a metaphorical story that means something to you that demonstrates what would happen when you apply the belief to you. (feel it, have it, do it, be it)
A metaphor is a figure of speech that identifies something as being the same as some unrelated thing for rhetorical effect, thus highlighting the similarities between the two. [Wikipedia]
All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances … – William Shakespeare, As You Like It
‘This quotation expresses a metaphor because the world is not literally a stage. By figuratively asserting that the world is a state, Shakespeare uses the points of comparison between the world and a state to convey an understanding about the mechanics of the world and the behavior of the people within it.’
Model how this new belief looks – how you really see things versus what actually is there after applying this new belief to yourself. Finally, re-assess what is real. Change again if necessary.
I do realize some of you need a chart or some type of visual to understand and learn from a written process. So, here is a visual of the process above:
What kind of metaphorical story would you write using the above information?
Here are some conscious beliefs successful people believe:
Compete with your goal, don’t compete with other people. Crush the goal!
Access to your market is nearly unlimited with the use of social media.
Do one thing every day.
Success isn’t built on strategy. Success is built through execution.
Work comes first, payoff comes later.
They believe you need real connections with people you can help, trust; and with people who care.
Now you have just-a-little notion of what your unconscious beliefs can do to you or for you.
Leave a comment below on how you can apply this information in your life.
Talk to you soon,