Are you wondering how owning my identity changed my life? Do you own your identity, that is to say do you have control of your life or does circumstances have control of your life?
“Self-identity is inextricably bound up with the identity of the surroundings.” Lars Fr. H. Svendsen, a philosopher.
My life wasn’t my own. My identity wasn’t my own. I had so many irons in the fire. There were so many people to please. There were so many agendas created by other people in my life which I had no control over, and no power to change.
I found that I wasn’t taking any for myself. This left me with absolutely no time to dream. II could forget about having a ‘significant other’; I had no time for that special someone. Yes, I continued to grow. I continued to live and learn. But I had no outlet for the fruits reaped from my growth, there was no way to share what I had learned. I couldn’t see the end of my story.
“It is always important to know when something has reached its end. Closing circles, shutting doors, finishing chapters, it doesn’t matter what we call it; what matters is to leave in the past those moments in life that are over.” Paulo Coelho, The Zahir
My identity wasn’t my own. All of these things contributed to my overall identity: my occupation(s), my social relationships, my family relationships, my abilities, my moral beliefs, and my spirituality.
THROUGH IT ALL…..
THIS IS WHAT I LEARNED….
“You aren’t your looks, or your gender, or your weight. you’re not where you were born, or who your parents are. You aren’t always, what you want to be.
You are what you do in your life, and who you help. You’re the legacy you are making to leave behind one day. You are what you do in this life you were given. Don’t let people judge you on the things you aren’t, let them see who you are.” – J.G.
I learned to own my identity, which is who I am and… WHO I was all the time. I just have to be my self no matter who is or isn’t pleased about it.
Now that I own my identity life has changed. I feel someone is smiling down on me and situations are coming up roses. I agree with this quote by Maya Angelou. (She is one of my favorite people.)
“My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”
I have become a different person. And, I will be able to personally accomplish many dreams. I feel accepted by many people I know. But, my intuition tells me that there are a large number of people waiting to accept me as I continue to own my identity.
I have always wanted to write books, or articles. That is why I love Wealthy Affiliates where I can establish as many websites and blogs as my identity requires. Why don’t you join me?